- Jun 23, 2020
Save My Face Le Grand Pillow
I have been sleeping on this pillow for at least 10 years and I still love it. I never travel without it! I am a side sleeper, (I wish I could sleep on back, but I just can’t.) The satin cover stays cool and helps reduce the chance of wrinkles (I think!). Their website (savemyface.com) describes it as “gently elevates and suspends your face over the sleep surface allowing you to rest comfortably removing harmful pressure on facial tissues and muscles.” I truly can’t live without it. I actually gave it to all of my girlfriends for Christmas one year! Depending on the size, it is $66 or less on Amazon (watch for surprise sales) and with the smaller model available for around $33.95.
- Jun 10, 2020
Loving: Your Skin
Self Tanning "Tan-Luxe" for Face or Body
Everyone that knows me, knows that I hate having the sun on my face and that I take protection from the sun to a higher level than almost everyone! That doesn’t mean that I don’t love the sun kissed healthy look that you get from being in the sun, but I will not sacrifice getting sun damage to get it!
I am not a self tanner or spray tan fan, as those have always been a disaster for me… not only do they smell terrible, I either look like a character from the old Willy Wonka movie, clearly the color of orange, or a streaked mess with dark patches and hand-prints all over my body! Needless to say I usually opt for staying ghostly white year-round. That was, until I found TAN-LUXE! The Body & Face Illuminating Self-Tan Drops mixed with your moisturizer gives you that “I’ve been on vacation glow”.
“The Face”, is your go-to product to create a glowing complexion. Face Tan-Luxe contains skin boosting and smoothing properties of Raspberry Seed Oil, Vitamin E and Aloe Vera; it works well with your existing skincare regime, transforming your favorite moisturizer, serum or face oil into a perfect self-tan.
How to Use-
Directions from the Ulta website
Cleanse and wash your face before application.
Apply: Mix 1-4 drops to your usual moisturizer, serum or face oil in the palm of your hand and apply evenly over the face. Additional drops of the product will add depth of color and glow to the final result. Wash your hands thoroughly after application.
Maintain: Gently exfoliate skin regularly to maintain an even, luminous glow.
Precautions: They advises a patch test is done 24 hours prior to use of TAN-LUXE products. Do not apply on broken, irritated or sensitive skin. Avoid contact with eyes. If a reaction occurs, discontinue use immediately and seek medical advice. Does not contain sunscreen and will not protect against sun exposure. Product color may vary due to natural ingredients.
Warnings: This product does not contain sunscreen and does not protect against sun damage. Repeated exposure of unprotected skin while tanning may increase the risk of skin ageing, skin cancer and other harmful effects to the skin even if you do not burn.
This item is sold various stores online for $49-$60, but watch for Ulta coupons to receive a discount.
- Jun 9, 2020
I don’t remember the first time my mom hit me. I simply don’t remember a time when random acts of violence were absent. One of my earliest memories is of being thrown on the driveway and my head bouncing hard against the ground, a taste that I would later learn was blood but that I just thought of as ‘pain’ filled my mouth. I was 4 years old.
As I got older I began to be able to predict what behaviors were more likely to provoke a violent response, although I was never able to know 100% of the time what drove these outbursts. Other adults would remark upon my maturity, compliment my mother on how quiet and well-behaved I was – they never understood the motivation for my quiet and composed demeanor. By the time I had reached the lofty age of 8 I had become adept at reading my mother’s moods and adjusting my behavior to try to please her. When I was awakened at 2am with a flashlight in my face, my mother screaming at me at the top of her voice, being made to scrub the bathtub or clean the kitchen floor – I always blamed myself and tried to figure out what I had done wrong. As an adult I would learn terms like bi-polar disorder and manic depressive disorder but 8 year old me was left feeling insecure and uncertain as to what I could do differently to avoid abuse.
When I was in middle school and high school I began to realize that my home life was very different from those my classmates experienced. My friends always complained about their moms, I superficially agreed and supported them but always envied them. If the worst I could expect from my mom was to be lectured for talking on the phone too long? Sign me up. I navigated a nightmare landscape where nothing I said or did was right, the way I folded laundry one day was fine, the next day it was a disaster. I have lost track of the concussions I had been treated for, the broken collar bone, the torn iris, the spiral wrist fractures, multiple finger fractures and my defining facial characteristic, my scarred left eyebrow from when I didn’t exit the car quickly enough and got my head slammed in the door as a ‘warning.’ These physical scars are so much a part of me that I don’t often think about them. The mental scars run a lot deeper.
I have asked myself a million times, how could I marry a narcissist and not see what I was signing up for? How could I tie myself further to him by having 3 children with him? The answer is that I was conditioned from birth to believe that I deserved whatever terrible treatment I received from those closest to me. The worst gift my mother gave me was the expectation that love always came accompanied by pain, and that pain was always my fault.
The main thing I would like to say to my younger self, and to anyone else dealing with similar life experiences is that it isn’t your fault and you deserve better. No child is born deserving abuse, and no relationship should mean pain. Be the architect of your future and draw up new plans, build on your past as a foundation but don’t be afraid to break free and design your own future.
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